Growing up my mother always advised me to make friends with good people. She'd tell me this over and over again — throughout primary school, secondary school and even now that I'm in uni. Obviously when I was a lot younger, friends were just friends.
Now that I'm a lot older and hopefully a little wiser, I've learnt that friends aren't just people you associate yourselves with. They're a reflection of who you are. Who you call your companions are essentially your other halves and it's up to you to make sure they're your better halves.
I've very strong instincts when it comes to people. It takes me a millisecond to decide whether I'm going to get along with someone.
I can't explain it but I've been that way since I was a kid. I'm obviously not horrible enough to just shoo people away; I'll always remain friendly but I make sure to keep my distances. Thing is, my instincts are never wrong either. The only times I've been wrong was when I doubted my gut feelings.
I don't waste my time with people who don't make me a better person. People who constantly b*tch about others and complain about their lives are very toxic to me. I'm like a sponge that easily absorbs people's vibes. If your vibe is toxic; I can't breathe easily around you.
Fey, one of my housemates, also studies Journalism with me. It sounds freaky but I had no doubt that she was going to be a very close friend of mine. For the past three years, my instincts have proved me right. She's been with me through thick and thin. We've laughed our butts off together, we've cried together, done stupid things together — the list goes on.
We come from very different backgrounds. She a British/Ethiopian/Orthodox Christian and me, a Malaysian/Malay/Muslim. Despite the differences, she honestly makes me a better Muslim every day. We always remind each other of what's important: family, education and our faith.
It's our faith that keeps us in check. ✔ It's what reminds us that there'll always be toxic people wherever we go but we've to remember who WE are inside and not let anyone change the values that our parents have instilled in us.
Having enrolled in a number of schools plus living overseas have exposed me to all sorts of people. People of different ethnicities, nationalities, beliefs, social class, etc and I've come to learn that good people don't come in one form. They come in all shapes and sizes. Just because someone's very different from you, doesn't mean they can't be wonderful.
And you know what? Despite being very decisive of who I befriend, I've a very positive approach when it comes to evaluating people. I'm aware of their negative points and while I keep them in mind, I focus on their plus points. No one's perfect.
Happy Saturday, everyone.