Hi. apa khabar?

Welcome to my blog. I'm Malaysian; born and raised. One fine day, I decided to upload my thoughts onto the world wide web. Who knows, there could be other souls out there who think a little too much and feel a little too deeply, just like me. 

A-OK with myself

I had an epiphany a few days ago. I was just reflecting back on my life and evaluating myself inside out and during that time, I realised that I'm content with the woman I've become. And I don't mean that in a narcissistic way.

I still bear many flaws and have much room for improvement but I'm content with myself. If anything, I'm happy with myself. I don't think I'm gorgeous, I'm not skinny, I was never a straight A-student, I get pimples every month, I'm not multi-talented but I am so freakin OK with that! Alhamdullilah.

Personally, I don't think life is easy for anyone because God never intended it to be that way. BUT I do believe, with the right mindset and way of life, you can be a happier person despite its many ups and downs.

In no strict order, here's what to do:
1. You're DIFFERENT. You were not put on this earth to be anyone else except the best version of YOU. I used to want to be person A, B and C because they had qualities and achievements that I struggled to have but after much contemplation I realised, I only wanted them because I thought it'd make me happy but I don't share the same aspirations as them. My goals in life are different therefore I do not share the same formula for happiness as them. 

2. Give yourself a pat on the back. An achievement is an achievement no matter how small. As you go on in life, you'll realise that all the dots connect. 

3. You can't be happy with your life if you're spiteful of someone else's. I see this problem with a lot of people and sadly, it was mine a couple years ago. I used to hate the fact that despite being a goodie goodie, I didn't excel like others did. I didn't fool about in school and yet the naughty (to put it mildly) kids in school got the best of both worlds: an incredible social life, the latest handbag, good looks and an amazing report card.

But then, I grew up. I learnt that NO ONE has it easy. Everyone puts up a facade online and in real life because no one wants to show a weak front. If you can appreciate that we're ALL struggling, you'll start wanting to help others and find contentment with your life; no matter how imperfect it is.

4. Focus on improving (YOU)RSELF. I've observed that with a lot of young people, they focus too much on wanting wealth, status and err... immature relationships.

While everyone is different, I personally think that the most important relationship you can have is the one you have with YOURSELF. How you treat others is a reflection of how you treat yourself.
 If you hate yourself, then the world will become your biggest enemy. If you don't learn to appreciate your life, then you'll never stop wanting what others have. 

5. Put your energy into improving yourself. I hate whiners and complainers. I see tons of these on my twitter timeline. If you've time to complain about every bit of your life then you're clearly not doing enough to change your circumstances. Channel your frustrations into working harder, persevering and solving whatever problem it is that you're facing.
I'm happy with myself and I truly hope everyone who reads this are as well. Sending positive vibes to all!

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