I've come to the conclusion that we as human beings tend to be quite intolerant of those different from us. We feel uncomfortable when we interact with people who either look or act differently from us. Sometimes it stems from a bit of harmless social anxiety but other times, it brews into hatred and some really serious prejudice.
If you're active on social media, you're blind if you say you've never seen people condemning others for the way that they dress, how much they weigh, who they're dating, what they're spending their money on, etc.
Why do we live in a society so obsessed with 'correcting' other people. We say that person A is wrong because what s/he does offends you. Well, it's their life and your way of living or thinking might not be parallel to theirs either.
I always hear people say things like:
'They're practising their faith wrongly.'
'Their version of *insert religion* is wrong.'
'S/he shouldn't speak like that.'
While I believe that we have the right to advise someone to mend their ways if it's a matter of moral integrity, other things such as how they choose to live their lives which does not affect your wellbeing shouldn't really be much of your concern.
I just think we'd all benefit much much more if we put our energy into improving OURSELVES and the lives of others instead of wasting our energy criticising and penalising others for being different. It's not healthy to be so glued on the faults of others while completely neglecting our own.
Why should I make others feel like they're the only ones who have weaknesses when my own life is a constant struggle to improve on mine?— Mufti Ismail Menk (@muftimenk) February 3, 2014
I just feel that these days people don't have the best intentions when trying to 'correct' others. If you truly cared for another person, you'd also do what you can not to hurt their feelings. There's a certain etiquette required when helping others.
Don't think being 'religious' means becoming harsh or hard. When Allah enters a heart, He softens it--He doesn't harden it.— Yasmin (@YasminMogahed) February 10, 2014