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Welcome to my blog. I'm Malaysian; born and raised. One fine day, I decided to upload my thoughts onto the world wide web. Who knows, there could be other souls out there who think a little too much and feel a little too deeply, just like me. 

Weekly Post-it #2


I think there'll be times in your life when you feel as if you're alone. Not lonely, alone. 

SCENARIO 1 
You want to pursue a career that no one in your family or your circle of friends is 
particularly supportive about. It doesn't have to be a bad career choice but for 
one reason or another, they're just not giving you the kind of support you need.

SCENARIO 2
You don't get along with your friends in your class or your work mates. 

SCENARIO 3
People just don't understand what you're going through and you end 
up having to deal with whatever situation you're in on your own.

SCENARIO 4
Or perhaps you THINK no one understands what you're doing through
and that makes you feel like you're going through something alone.


Those are just some random examples. But you know what I'm talking about; it's when no one else is on the same page as you. I've learnt to embrace these moments however rare or regular they may be because trust me, time alone is good for you. Why? Because you learn SO much about yourself.

You also get used to doing things for yourself, something a lot of people struggle with. Sometimes we get so busy we forget to self-reflect and follow trends too much. There are some people out there who can't do anything without validation from someone.

It's as if their sole purpose in life is to please others. They become spineless when life forces them to make an important decision. I'm at that point in my life where I just dive into things. Sometimes we take too much precaution and end up watching opportunities go by.

It's also ok if not many people share the same interests as you. For example, if you're the only person in your circle who's passionate about the environment or something people find unusual—don't let it throw you off. Frankly, I don't know many people who are as nerdy as me but it's all good. ;p

And then, there are people who are afraid to be alone in terms of companionship. They jump from relationship to relationship and you start to wonder if the relationship they're in is even meaningful to them. To any teen out there, relationships are better off for adults who are prepared to commit to each other.

This is my personal opinion, people are bound to disagree. Immature puppy love don't last and can be emotionally quite draining. My friends are often surprised (or creeped out) by how nonchalant I am at being single when so many young adults are frantically searching for their other halves. I suppose they find the thought of being alone quite frightening. What if they're alone forever? Gasp. Shock. Horror.

Well firstly, it helps when you're 100% entirely emotionally dependent on yourself. That means when times get hard, you're the first person to console yourself. When you're down, you're the first person to pick yourself back up.

When you've succeeded in something, you're the first person to congratulate yourself. You feel proud of yourself; the person you want to celebrate with the most is yourself because—why not?! You're the one who put in the hard work. No one can acknowledge it better than you can.

To me, relationships are when 2 complete individuals come together to form a dynamic duo—NOT a half and a half. You can't be in one if you don't know yourself, what pisses you off, YOUR goals in life, what you enjoy doing, your shortcomings, etc.

It's important to work on yourself first. Imagine already struggling with yourself and having to put up with another person's shortcomings. Noooo way, man. Ain't nobody got time for that. I believe in having friends/partners who help you with your personal growth. If they can't, it's simply not worth it.

Btw, I'm not telling anyone to live in a cave and have no friends. What I'm simply trying to say is, it's completely ok to have brief moments or even prolonged periods of time when you're not quite on the same page as everyone else.

Life is short. Make it worth it. Don't rush into things. We're blessed with one life on earth, a functioning body and intellect. Everyday presents itself with a million opportunities to learn about life and yourself. Alone time is a HUGE privilege, believe me. Seize it!

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