What are you proud of?
During a moment of self-reflection just now, I asked myself:
"What have I done so far in life which I am most proud of?"
The proudest thing I've done which can't even be materialised into an award or a certificate to prove it, is being a good friend to someone. You can be lousy at your office job, you can be a sucky *insert anything you're bad at* but the best and most fulfilling job you can excel at is being a good friend.
Being a good friend doesn't have to be exclusive to your best friend or people in your social circle. Be a good friend to your neighbour, your siblings, your colleague, but do so sincerely and selflessly. If you expect your good deeds to be requited, you'll be very disappointed.
You've to understand that someone who's always ready to help will always be taken for granted and that is guaranteed. You can go out of your way to support someone through thick and thin but out of the 100 things you do for them they'll probably only remember 1 thing. That's OK.
If you expect people to validate and show appreciation for the good things you've done, you can FORGET IT but once in a while, when you least expect it, someone will thank you. Someone will tell you that you've impacted their life in a way that you never thought you could. Those moments are gold.
Being a good friend doesn't actually bring benefits that directly affect your life but you get an overwhelmingly good feeling knowing that you helped someone achieve something, change for the better or even change their perspective on life. It is humbling to know that YOU can be a force of change.
Don't get me wrong; don't be anyone's doormat. Don't invest too much of your time in something or someone and put your peace of mind at stake because in the end, it's not up to you to change someone's life; that's their responsibility and not yours.
If you feel that you can help that person and you're not risking your emotional wellbeing, then do it. Do it because you believe in how powerful an act of kindness is. Do it because you want to be the change that you'd like to see in this world. I don't believe in being unkind just because there are insincere hypocrites out there. That's their problem and I don't wish to be one of them.
In a world where everyone demands recognition, be someone who's part of something even bigger. Be someone your younger self can look up to. Work sincerely and in silence. You don't need to be recognised; you just have to recognise that you're born to do great things and with that kind of self-motivation, there's no doubt that you will achieve GREAT things, insyaAllah. :)
Here's an ad that pretty much sums up what I'm trying to say. Be prepared to wipe your tears.
Hope you had a good weekend. Tomorrow's work - woohoo!