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The Fame Machine

The Fame Machine

Fan of Ashton Kutcher? Who isn't when the guy is beautiful! As of lately, he always has something insightful to say in his interviews. I really admire that because a lot of people in showbiz tend to get caught up in the glitz and glam and end up becoming nothing more than what they wear or who they date. 

One of my guilty pleasures is to watch celeb interviews on YouTube and observe how they answer questions. I know it's stupid because who cares how they talk in interviews but for me, nothing is more off putting than not coming off as genuine or the least bit smart in conversations. Carrying yourself well is an important trait to have.

Back in 2013, a friend shared Ashton's Teen Choice Award acceptance speech; I watched it not expecting much but was completely blown away. If you can ignore the screaming fans, his speech is absolutely worth watching. 

Key points he made:

  • Opportunities are hard work in disguise.

  • Being sexy is being really smart, thoughtful and generous.

  • Don't live a life; BUILD ONE.

“The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart, thoughtful and generous. Everything else is CRAP, I promise you. It’s just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less, so don’t buy it.”

Just when I thought he couldn't get any more awesome, he then went on Ellen and imparted even more wisdom. Both Ellen and Ashton mentioned that people these days don't want to work as hard as people from previous generations did in order to succeed. 

“The system... the means to success have changed now. There are people who are famous for the sake of being famous or... being second generation wealthy families. It shifts a dynamic in society and there’s [a sense of] entitlement that’s starting to emerge and it’s unhealthy for people and... for a country.”

Doesn't that sound familiar? Working in a competitive city such as KL has exposed to me all kinds of people. I've noticed this unsettling trend of people, especially younger ones, wanting to appear successful without actually succeeding in much at all except perhaps, to create a fan base for themselves.

You're young, you have nice things, appear at all the big events and people know your name — so what? Since when was being known a measure of success? Since when was who you know and what you wear more impressive than what you've to offer to your community?

“I talk to some of my friends and they don’t want to get a job at Starbucks or wherever because they feel like it’s below them and I think that the only thing that can be below them is to NOT have a job.”

Don't get him wrong, he wasn't trying to put down the unemployed—it was aimed at people who feel that they're too good for certain jobs. What he said immediately clicked in my head because I've actually met people who speak negatively about other people's jobs or delay getting a job because they feel that only a certain job position is befitting of them. 

Fortunately, I've also had the privilege of meeting people from humble backgrounds with amazing work ethics. They inspire me to work hard and be grateful of some of the opportunities that I'm presented with that they might not have. I love how they're not ashamed of where they come from and they work long hours without complaining. 

“Work until you can get the job you want to have.”

ANY job you've is a means to get to somewhere better. Unless you've your own business or your own company, you can't expect to be a CEO overnight. But whatever it is you're working as—it is an opportunity to meet new people, network and improve on yourself. Like Ashton mentioned in his acceptance speech:

“I’ve never had a job in my life that I was better than. I was always just lucky to have a job...”

Aiming high and being competitive are positive attitudes to have but you need to realise that not everyone is lucky enough to be in ideal job settings from the very start. Not everyone is lucky enough to land their dream job on the first take but for every job you do take on, be humble and mature enough to appreciate that you HAVE a job—a privilege that NOT everyone has. 

Be childlike, not childish.

Be childlike, not childish.