Something hilarious happened to me the other day. Actually, no. It wasn't hilarious, it was quite painful. I fell down the stairs and I've bruises on my legs to prove it. If you must know, I've a phobia of walking down staircases. I'm so scared I'll fall down and hurt myself that I'll walk down each step slowly to avoid any accidents. SO slow that you'd hate to be the person walking behind me. This fear of mine stems from the many incidents I had during my school days where I've fallen down the stairs.
Back in my secondary school, there was a separate building you had to go to for your languages/art/music/drama classes. Students weren't allowed to use the lifts so you had to use the staircase, which wasn't properly sheltered from the rain, to get to your classes. When it rained, the staircase would be wet and slippery. On many occasions, I had just 10 mins to get to my next class on the other side of campus which means I'd have to rush down 8-10 flights of stairs to avoid being late. Good news: I never got detention for being late. Bad news: I gained a couple of bruises and strained muscles to achieve that record for punctuality.
Fears or phobias, however you label it, are all based on negative perceptions. They're based on the belief that something could happen but that something isn't even guaranteed! And when your fear does come true (in my case, it was falling down the stairs), it's not NEARLY as bad as you imagined it to be. Life goes on! The situations you make up in your head are scarier than what actually happens in reality.
It's how we think that determines whether our future is hopeful or hopeless. If you're lucky, you'll come across people who don't necessarily have much in terms of wealth but they view life in such a beautiful way that life becomes a beautiful experience for them. These people are usually patient, grateful and positive. They really inspire me to take on a positive approach to dealing with problems.
A lot of things in life are beyond our control. We can be healthy today and ill tomorrow; we can be poor today and a billionaire the next; we can be someone today and a nobody tomorrow. Whatever happens, it's important to have faith and a positive outlook on life. Although being cautious is never a bad thing, living in fear can hold you back from doing great things.
"As a man, I tell all guys that you've to get hit in the face at least once in your life because the FEAR of getting hit in the face is WORSE than actually getting hit in the face." - Terry Crews
I'm not encouraging anyone to get hit in the face. Please don't. The point is, our minds tend to play up our fears making problems seem larger than they actually are and that can really overwhelm a person. Life is like a running river; it's never stagnant and the currents will change according to the seasons. Your life will keep on going; things that once had an impact on you will cease to become important in the future.
Whenever I look back at stressful events in my life, I can't help but laugh a little. I'm standing here today alive and healthy so why did I freak out so much? Things will work out and whatever that happens to you, you'll get through it. Most of the time, our biggest fears only exist in our minds.