The Finer Details
I'm the type of person who will focus on the finer details when I'm unhappy with the bigger picture. Whenever I feel negatively about anything, I'll always try to counteract it with rational thinking or a positive thought.
I catalogued my watercolours a few weeks ago and noticed that all my blue watercolours looked so similar when they do have subtle differences. Same same but different!
The events that take place in our lives are a lot like colours in a colour palette. 4 colours may look the same but they bring a different hue to a picture. Everything that happens to us have a bigger purpose, we just don't know it yet.
My plans for 2016 have already been foiled very early on in the year but after some contemplation, I came to the conclusion that it's GOOD to not always get what you want. There were a lot of things I didn't get last year due to circumstances I couldn't control but when I think about it now, my life is exactly the way it should be. The way Allah intended it to be.
Whenever I look back on past events, I realise that not getting what I wanted was a blessing. Every time I thought I was being denied something good, I was actually being led to something better. I was given other opportunities, met interesting people and gained new insights.
It's often difficult to see the silver lining in every situation because let's face it, it's much easier to be angry and upset when things don't go your way. But as human beings, we've limited knowledge—the BEST thing to happen to you could be just around the corner and you still wouldn't know.
For Muslims, we are taught that sabr (patience) is half of our iman (faith). I used to think patience was about being completely ok when things go wrong which was why I found it so hard to do. Patience isn't about depriving yourself of feeling certain emotions, we're only human after all. Patience is about control; only with control can your emotions guide your thoughts.
And then there's tawakkul (reliance on God), trusting that the best has yet to come because when you put your trust in Allah, a force bigger than you, you'll know that all your affairs have already been taken care of.
Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full. - Forty Rules of Love (Elif Shafak)
As the saying goes: 'You can't see your reflection in boiling water'. Only with a clear mind will you be able to look pass adversity and see the opportunities that lie ahead. Not getting what you wanted doesn't mean you didn't receive anything at all. Better things could be coming your way, who knows?